Blizzard Buddies

Dear Readers,

It's that time of year when it's cold, snowy, and just plain yucky outside. Use caution when dating online. Looking for a "Blizzard Buddy" is probably a bad idea. This article explains why... so stay warm and try to enjoy the journey!
Blizzard Buddy

Jumping The Gun

Dear Readers,

There is something to be said for "jumping the gun". I've oftentimes been guilty of this, have you? Some discretion with falling in love is needed and that takes time. We all need to remember this before jumping in with both feet. Otherwise, enjoy the journey!

A Chance Encounter On The Slopes

Dear Miss Lisa,

I am interested in a boy.  Okay, not really a "boy" but he's a 50+ man, who has a good job, is fit, likes to ski...in fact, that is how I met him, on the ski bus to Steamboat last weekend.  He chatted with me a bit and we did have a dance at the dinner party.  My issue is how to make sure I got his attention and have him ask me out sometime.  We did not exchange numbers but the sneaky seed planter that I am,  (insert evil laugh) did get his google email and add to my contact list so that he will see my profile come across as "someone you may know" on the Facebook feed.  Any other suggestions on being subtle but getting noticed?  Any good "Voodoo" queens you know?

Regards,
Subtle Sue

Dear Not-So-Subtle Sue,
I am impressed with your detective work and use of the internet to reach out to someone!  It is encouraging to think that someone could go to all that trouble to find us again after a chance encounter, right?!!

With the internet making finding someone so much easier, why not be bold and just write him since you already have his email?  The way I see it, if we don't want someone to find us, then we keep all of our personal information private.  If you were able to find him email address then all bets are off, in my way of thinking.  Go for the gusto!  Just be honest, and tell him that you couldn't forget him (the truth), you had a great time (the truth) and I'm sure if the roles were reversed we would be thrilled!  He could be shooting himself in the foot for not getting YOUR number!

If, on the other hand, you feel that being that bold isn't your style, find him on Facebook and private message him but don't 'friend request' just yet.  See what his response is, he could end up sending YOU the friend request!

Remember to google his name to see if there's anything out there that could be red flags.  If all else fails, let me know and we can certainly find a voodoo queen for a potion!

Something To Ponder

Dear Reader,
A friend posted this today on Facebook. I read the article and wondered if anyone has found this to be true for them or would be willing to try it?  It's a very interesting read.
Something to ponder...

Change the "Me" To "We"

Dear Readers,
If you are celebrating the holidays with that special someone, remember that the word "ME" can be turned around to spell "WE". It is one of the secrets to a lasting relationship!

The Gut Knows Best

Dear Miss Lisa,
A man wrote me a lengthy message on one of the dating sites.  He was so excited to read my profile, thought I was pretty, said we had a bunch of things in common and guess what, he's a lawyer!
My gut is screaming that something is wrong with this picture.  Is there?
signed,
My Gut Is Screaming

Dear Gut Buster,
Your gut screaming at you that something is wrong means it needs your immediate attention, every time.  Never ignore it or you can expect the worst outcome.  Call it your conscience, God's will, your past experiences, the Holy Spirit, whatever, bells going off in your head means pay attention and don't dismiss them.

Before you go out with him, whether it's meeting for drinks or dinner, spend more time with him online and find out more about him.  He could be Mr. Smooth-talker, Mr. Married Four Times, Mr. Still Married or Mr. Pervert.  I know from my own dating experiences that my gut/instincts are the best way to fly and won't serve me wrong. 

Now go and ask him some pointed questions and don't be afraid to move on if his answers are vague.  Be sure to come back and let us know how it went!

How To Shut A Girl Up

Dear Gentlemen In This Cyber World,

Do you always get in trouble with your girlfriend because you're too honest? Do you drive her crazy and always feel like you're back-pedaling trying to come up with a way to undo what you've just said?

1) Kiss her with all the gusto you've got and mean it.
2) If that doesn't work, apologize and mean it, then repeat #1.

You're welcome.